Comments on The Quaint and Luminous Life of a Cha Lover: Is old, gold?

oh - dont worry about it too much - you cant have ...

2009-08-25T12:32:24.762+05:30

oh - dont worry about it too much - you cant have it all figured out now - things will just have to fall in palce. dont expect too much from your children / grand children during old age - that way you wont be dissappointed.

i try and stay in the middle east so that I can fly back to our village whenever required... and my parents keep joking about how they should invest / enroll in an old age home before its too late :)

i really dont know which facet to address. () the ...

2009-08-22T10:30:44.790+05:30

i really dont know which facet to address. () the pain of kids being far away will perisist with each generation. one needs to accept that as aprt of life () even after marraige a girl has 2 homes and that she can deftly handle is couldnt me more true.

() seclusion/lonliness::: well this is what we are in the process of doing. a few of us who have dceided to stay put in Hyd for the rest of our lives have boought ( or are under the process of buying)a samll flat in the same colony block in shamirpet so that it can be later converted to a sort of old age retreat with individual flats. at least the same crop of couples you spent the laast 20/30 years would be near you as you grey away to oblivion... and i am quite surprized by the number of your kakus and mashis who have subscribed to the idea and have taken categorical steps towards it..

hope lonliness will be an unknown word even if i ever start growing old.....

@pat: aww thanks! I have a feelign we'll both ...

2009-08-21T16:38:08.219+05:30

@pat: aww thanks! I have a feelign we'll both meet someday..by the beach in bikinis at 85. Now thats how i'd to age. :D

@Scribbler: i totally agree on the self reliance part. But i can't diges it. Lemme give u a example- a few days back there was an emergency at home, with me (surpringly forgot to mention and even blog!!) so we took off to the hospital . it was last saturday at 10 pm. There were plenty of them waiting, babies, young and the old. I got called at 12.30 am. I had raj with me and meeshu. we fretted anf fumed and almost cried in the anxiety. And then there was a very old woman. easily in her late seventies, visibly sick and waiting to be attended. No one by her. My heart went out to her debo...thats now how old age should be. NO. I wish there was someone there by her. :(

@Starry eyed: babe i think we'll be those looney ones ya..in our wheelchairs, we'll go for a roller coaster ride ;)

@chandrima: having provoked such deep thoughts my sincerest advice on a friday night- make the best of now. Uncork that chilled Kingfisher NOW!

Can't help but saying the same old phrase - th...

2009-08-21T12:33:13.883+05:30

Can't help but saying the same old phrase - thought provoking. This post cannot be described in any other way. Bt most importantly, I oved reading your thoughts as most of them is mine too. I sometimes get upset with the thought of what the future holds for me, what if it's not good, but I also know that I have to face whatever happens. My parents live a fairly happy go lucky life, and my late grandparents had a good life too. Guess I would manage when the time comes.

Seeing my parents go old makes me so so scared! Th...

2009-08-21T11:00:36.707+05:30

Seeing my parents go old makes me so so scared! There are times when I hold my dad's hand and try and rub the wrinkles out, I want those wrinkles to go away and his hand to be the way it was earlier...I don't like the streaks of white on my mum's hair...it scares the shit out of me. It's lovely to see the way they are leading their lives independently without both their kids around. Infact, my dad is still working and mum has gone all the way down to a remote village in TN just to be with him. But they must feel lonely in the back of beyond and bereft of not only their social lives but also their kids. It's hard to imagine if I will be able to manage life the way they have! I wish I can.

"I think a woman has more than just one home after her marriage, and her ties with her parents, only get that much stronger"....loved this bit, so true...

I think of this everytime I call my in-laws,favori...

2009-08-21T06:25:00.774+05:30

I think of this everytime I call my in-laws,favorite aunts,or uncles. It's scary really.
But when I see the old generation in this country...healty, happy, and as independant as they can possibly be at that age...I feel slightly better. They do what they want, when they want...socialise, travel, shop, walk, cycle,volunteer for good causes...go for health check-ups on their own (not after being told a thousand times by their kids). Old age is lonely for sure, but they seem to consider it as their "me" time...and do whatever it is that makes them happy. Really, if I hadn't been here, I would dread old age much more than I do now.

I like the cockloach... super cute!! I'm sure ...

2009-08-20T22:14:53.904+05:30

I like the cockloach... super cute!! I'm sure you'll be a fine old lady.. and it will be great to make conversation / gossip / gapshap with you... Hey.. I'd love to see how you look when you grown old..

@indy: :). dont fret too much, I know after fretti...

2009-08-20T18:32:16.478+05:30

@indy: :). dont fret too much, I know after fretting myself such advice is a joke! But did you know fourties is the new thrities? :)

Old age sacres me too! Luckily Mum had me nearby, ...

2009-08-20T18:11:40.614+05:30

Old age sacres me too! Luckily Mum had me nearby, but dad chose to refuse anyone around! Now with both of them gone, and with both their examples of old age before me, I often dig into the future and dread it! And being forty already, just doesn't help!